Dear Love & War,

Whenever I check my email, I'm bombarded with "Make your penis larger in just X number of days!" emails. I know they're junk, but I'm curious to know if they really work. What are your recommendations?
-Size Matters

Before God invented spam filters for email, I also received many of the “enhancement” offers. Like most men, I was intrigued by the nature of their advertisements. Super size me in just two weeks? Sounds good. Ultimately, there really is no magical cure to change that special part of the male anatomy. I would suggest working with what you’ve been given. Try other options like exercise or flexibility training to enhance your performance. Remember, size is not the determining factor, but every interested partner likes a fit body.

Dear Love & War,

My friend always assumes that pitching in for an evenings events doesn't include him. He never helps with gas, wants to eat for free, and God forbid he pay for a beer. How should I let him know to help out with money?
–Friend of a Moocher

You’re absolutely right on confronting him about this situation; nobody wants to have a leech as a friend. I’d say you pull him aside from all your other friends and talk to him. (Given that you guys hang out with other people.) Tell him that you don’t appreciate it when he doesn’t pitch in and that it’s his responsibility to pay for his part of the ever-rising gas demands, the dinner bill and the tab.

Just make sure you don’t say, “If you can’t pay, then don’t go out.” That’s just cruel. He’ll get the picture if you just stick to the above.

Dear Love & War,

I am three months pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't know. I’m not showing yet, but I will be soon. What should I do?
–Mommy on a Mission

First of all, congrats on the baby! Some people actually try very hard to have one, but fail miserably.

Why haven’t you told your boyfriend about this? It’s important— it’s not every day that someone becomes a parent and you, out of all people, should know this—you’re a mom now.

Give him the good news in person, and do it soon. You don’t want him to just guess by seeing your baby bump— that wouldn’t be a good way to discover fatherhood.

When you talk to him, don’t beat around the bush. Tell him flat out that you’re pregnant and start discussing your plans for the future. Your plans, mind you. Be gentle about what he needs to do because he’ll probably still be in shock.

Warmest Regards,
Love & War

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